" My therapist of three years told me that “people-pleasing” has always been a struggle I face. Because I grew up quite lonely, my greatest goal was always to be liked. I observed characters and tropes and collected a list of charming personality traits that people thought were likable. I experimented with them and performed them with exuberance. When I figured out how to make myself likable and popular, I adapted behaviors that solidified that image of me. It felt like I had discovered a secret formula. I felt powerful when I was popular." -I did the exact same thing growing up. Only to grow up and realize that I had no idea who I was or what I wanted. It took a lot of inner work. Self-love and kindness to get to a place of knowing. True connection. Thank you for sharing. I love your work. I actually saw your book in B&N. I can't believe I get to share Substack and a space with so many talented writers like you.
I learned about your writing through a mutual friend in NYC and I was blown away by the vulnerability, honesty, poetry and power of your words! I am so excited to read your new book; as an Asian American girl growing up in Chinatown trying to please my parents and the people around me your writing rings so deep and so true. Thank you for giving shape to your thoughts and sharing your journey of healing with the world! I am also a burlesque performer and producer interested in creating new platforms for creative, diverse voices and points of view. I hope we can connect in person soon!
yay 🦋💗 so proud ! also coming out of my people pleasing era. thank you for exploring the idea of being free in chosen family relationships/ dynamics. feels so good to know someone is also thinking through // experiencing the process of becoming their true selves & that it’s not easy but we’re not alone in this.
this is so beautiful!!! i am so excited for your book and will make sure to purchase !! sending you lots of love and warm wishes, your writing always makes my day 💕💕💕
I Cannot Control How You'll Feel
" My therapist of three years told me that “people-pleasing” has always been a struggle I face. Because I grew up quite lonely, my greatest goal was always to be liked. I observed characters and tropes and collected a list of charming personality traits that people thought were likable. I experimented with them and performed them with exuberance. When I figured out how to make myself likable and popular, I adapted behaviors that solidified that image of me. It felt like I had discovered a secret formula. I felt powerful when I was popular." -I did the exact same thing growing up. Only to grow up and realize that I had no idea who I was or what I wanted. It took a lot of inner work. Self-love and kindness to get to a place of knowing. True connection. Thank you for sharing. I love your work. I actually saw your book in B&N. I can't believe I get to share Substack and a space with so many talented writers like you.
I learned about your writing through a mutual friend in NYC and I was blown away by the vulnerability, honesty, poetry and power of your words! I am so excited to read your new book; as an Asian American girl growing up in Chinatown trying to please my parents and the people around me your writing rings so deep and so true. Thank you for giving shape to your thoughts and sharing your journey of healing with the world! I am also a burlesque performer and producer interested in creating new platforms for creative, diverse voices and points of view. I hope we can connect in person soon!
yay 🦋💗 so proud ! also coming out of my people pleasing era. thank you for exploring the idea of being free in chosen family relationships/ dynamics. feels so good to know someone is also thinking through // experiencing the process of becoming their true selves & that it’s not easy but we’re not alone in this.
Very happy for you Mimi and I’m looking forward to reading “Be Not Afraid of Love” 💗✨
Congratulations 💕
Thank you for all that you do.
this is so beautiful!!! i am so excited for your book and will make sure to purchase !! sending you lots of love and warm wishes, your writing always makes my day 💕💕💕